Setting Goals

As I mentioned before in one of my  posts, my blogs would be  less frequent due to my studies this year.  But I thought I would give a little update.  I received my last four assignments today. And the feeling is utter elation.

I can not even begin to imagine how far I have come over these two and a half years.  Its amazing what we can achieve if we set our minds to it, and if we set goals.

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I am going home next month. Home is still Amsterdam to me. Well its home away from home.

And the excitement is brimming inside of me to see my daughter Skye, family and friends,  and to ride my bike around the  canals and places that are just so familiar to me and just home…

But before I planned my trip I had work that needed to be done. I had to complete my 14th assignment.

That means work handed in, marked by the teachers and passed. Here in Brisbane the summers are hot and very humid.  They are long and at times unbearable.  I made my decision that before I left to go home, I needed to get most of this done before the summer arrives and energy levels slow down.  I set about writing my goals down, and using highlighter to achieve just that.  As I zipped through hours and hours of study and assignments – each written goal in front of me began to be “ticked” off.  Whilst I am not yet done with the rest of my study. I am near the end. And this has been done with a very energetic job of being a beauty stylist.  I say this because I am not a spring chicken.  Fortunately I am pretty fit and healthy.

 

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I know that in years to come I will look back and wonder how on earth I managed to achieve it. There are days that I am so exhausted I can barely walk another step.  But having goals and achieving them is the most blissful experience ever.  There really is nothing that you can not achieve. If you have a plan, set about writing it all down. And watch those pages turn with more goals.

 

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There is something to be said about setting goals and steadily achieving them.  There is something magical about having it all planned out on paper. Something happens. You set about achieving those goals. Make sure that you regularly look at what you have written to stay on track.  It must be quite visible to you.  There is something magical about ticking things off the list. It drives you to do more and more.  Don’t set unrealistic goals. Keep checking back to see that you are going at a steady pace. If you slip up one week, don’t become despondent and pack it all in. Just get back on track,  and if you need to – adjust the goal post slightly.

I am perfectly comfortable with admitting that I am looking very forward to a whole weekend without studies this holiday. And because I reached my goal, I will be doing what I love – guilt free.

I am looking forward to exploring some of Australia next year. Places around Brisbane,  like Noosa and many other magical places.  Life will be taking on a whole new meaning after I have reached this years goals.

There will be more goals to come to really propel me on the road to success. But for now,  this one has been reached.  And I cant wait to go back home.

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La Mer Moisturising Cream

I have been fortunate enough as a beauty stylist to try out some amazing products over the two years.  And one of my very favourite products has to be La Mer.

This product was developed many years ago by a scientist who burned himself doing one of his experiments, and he developed La Mer to heal his burns and scars with amazing results.

Its not just an anti ageing product , it is a product that has incredible healing properties due to the organically harvested kelp. They call this the miracle broth – this is the ingredient that goes into the Créme de la Mer.

It is not a product that is considered affordable.  But having said that, with this product – across all of its product range – less is more. You really don’t need to use very much for great results.  It is quite simply, superb.

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I can honestly say that it leaves your skin feeling smooth and nourished. You can notice the change.

But what is more incredible,  is that over time it actually heals the skin. So those fine lines and open pores become considerably less.  When you wake up in the morning your skin looks dewey and fresh. Your skin will feel soft to the touch and a big bonus is the smell. It smells like luxury and it feels like luxury.  If you have quite problematic skin- La Mer is the answer. So this range is good for most skin types.  And again, this product was originally made to heal a very damaged skin. But what followed was not only the benefits of healing , but an anti-ageing second to none.

Its a wonderful product and it is well worth the money you pay for it.

If you want to invest in your skin. I would invest in La Mer.

Clearing Clutter

Well its been some time since I’ve given any attention to my blog. And I can honestly say I wont be back as frequently as I would like to –  but that is because I am studying hard to be a counsellor.  It is my priority at the moment. I have every intention of making my blog a priority too. My two years of studying will conclude at the end of the year.  I work as a beauty stylist as well. So juggling work & study is exhausting both physically and mentally.  But I’m getting there. I will post as much as I can leading up to that. I am grateful for the regular visitors that I do have coming back to my blog to see what I have posted. Thank you.

I felt the need to write about clutter. 

I was asked by a friend of mine to help her clear the clutter that she has accumulated over the years with her family and two small children. She asked if I could go around to her house and just help her decide what to do with the “stuff”.

I offered to go and collect her designer goodies and re-sell them on Ebay,  and then we could come up with a plan for the rearrangement of her other items that she wanted to sort trough.   As soon as I stepped into her house –  I was overwhelmed. There is no other way of expressing how much “stuff” she and her husband had accumulated over the years.  It was beyond anything I have ever seen before, and it was way out of my comfort zone to be able to challenge on my own.

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I remember back to when I left Amsterdam to embark on my journey to London. I detoxed what I had assumed to be a large amount of my belongings.  Everything that I thought I desperately needed,  I packed into boxes . It was all happily sent on its journey to my new apartment, which was a cardboard box flat in London.  I had come from such a beautiful place and moved into a shit hole.  Around me were my boxes piled high from floor to ceiling. I had hoped that it was going to be temporary, and that I would soon be living in a place that was more up my alley.  Much like my previous apartment in Amsterdam.

I made the flat in London look as good as I could with the help of my husband, and I ended up living there for two years. Still- with all my boxes piled from floor to ceiling.  Looking back now – I see how desperate I was to hold onto what I had. I did not want to let go of what I had worked hard for, or the lifestyle I had earned myself. The person I worked for in London had other ideas for me. All the promises of a better future were soon quashed, and reality was something very different.  Still I wanted my “stuff” so badly, that when we made the move to Australia –  I again shlepped all my “stuff” down under”. I was in an awful situaiton, and I was now in a battle with someone who no longer valued me, and kicked me to the curb. So all I had left was my “stuff”.  Desperately clinging onto my stuff.

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Let me point out, that I have always been good at detoxing at home. So I had actually scaled down quite considerably.

Upon arriving in Australia our “stuff” went onto storage until we could get ourselves on our feet and find a place of our own. It took another year until we unpacked our boxes. So it had been a total of 3 years since I had actually seen my “stuff”

I can honestly put my hand on my heart and say that I would not miss most of the things that I have shlepped from Amsterdam-London-Australia. In fact, what resulted in this whole journey- was that we  had collected so much shit along the way. Things that we did not really need. Things that weighed us down. My reasons for holding onto all of the things that I desperately did not wanted to let go of ? Fear. I was petrified of losing myself somehow. Losing what I had gained in the material world.

Don’t get me wrong. I love beautiful things, and I always will. And I still have many of my beautiful things.  But I lost so much of myself in that whole experience, that I was desperate to cling on to what little I had left. The broken person with all the “stuff” has let go of so much.  I now only have the precious things that I don’t want to let go of. And I keep it all very simple. When you walk into our home, its clutter free and you can breath. I still intend to let go of much more.

I noticed that when I unpacked those boxes that had made a bigger journey than most human beings do – that I could have easily lived just as though I had never seen most of it ever! That was the biggest lightbulb moment for me. images

I had essentially let go of so much.  I had finally moved on from a traumatic experience and no longer needed anything but my sanity. I am almost 99.9% sure that my last destination on earth wont be Australia. And so I keep it simple. I have kept things dating back to when my daughter Skye was a baby, that I still have. Immaculate soft toys – for when she has a child one day.  Her school reports. Family photos.  Sentimental things.Important documents. That kind of thing.  I have always been incredibly sentimental and I do have things from years ago that are still in mint condition. But I can now probably put them all in 3 large box and be very happy indeed. Apart from a few large pictures, that is is! Oh and one stunning Union Jack cabinet my husband made and gave me as a birthday present.  I wont ever accumulate the things I did before.

 

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We simply don’t have to have everything. Its a mindset, and it can erupt into a dangerous one. I am often astounded at how much people think they need. Just in the same way as I was when I walked into that house last week. It felt heavy. The feeling of not having to have so much  is incredibly freeing and liberating. I cant stand clutter anyway. But we just simply don’t need it! The same applies to my clothing and to my shoes. And I love fashion and shoes. Whatever has not seen the light of day for longer than a year goes to someone else or goes to charity or I sell.  This amazing book by Marie Condo, the life changing magic of tidying up – is ideal way to make a great start for simplifying life and get things organised. But after you have let go of all the “stuff” that you do not need.  Keep it simple. Life is so much more than belongings.  Trust me you feel lighter and happier.

 

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Back On Track

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Stopping Smoking – Max Kirsten

It was  a little over two years ago that I quit smoking.  I never thought  I would be able to quit! I smoked a pack a day! I never was one to smoke a whole cigarette, but I still went through a pack a day.

 

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I was ready to leave the UK after a hellish journey in my life and I was headed to Australia.  I had wanted to stop smoking for a long time, but I also knew how expensive smoking was in Australia and that I couldn’t purchase my favoured brand.  They were an organic brand from the states, and I loved my cigarettes. I really did. They were my best buddies and constant companions.  In Holland they were affordable and in Spain they were even cheaper if I managed to get hold of some on holidays.  I thought I would always be addicted to my cigarettes and deep down often prayed that I could one day be strong enough to quit.  They were there for me when I was having fun, when times were good and when times were bad.

 

I did my research and found a highly capable man who had cured a few celebrity clients that had advocated his success and all that jazz. I chose  Max Kirsten.

 

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I felt exactly the same as Ewan McGregor describes in this video – he went to Max Kirsten to have hypnotherapy.  So that is what I decided I would do. I wanted to go to someone who I knew would be able to deliver the goods.  Obviously he doesn’t only help with quitting smoking. There are a large number of hypnotherapy treatments he offers.

I clearly remember walking around the corner from Harrods about to have my last cigarette outside his front door just after 2pm in the afternoon.  I emerged from this fascinating man’s office after spending over 3 hours being treated my him. He was warm, friendly, funny and above all – very capable.  The hypnotherapy he gave me was tailored for me. Using situations and circumstances to assist me to cope with the drastic measure I was taking to improve my life.  I was ready to let go of everything at the time.  Toxic “friends”, toxic habits, toxic circumstances.  You name it. It was all going! And gone it was.

 

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I also had quit in what was possibly one of the most hideously stressful times I could clearly EVER recall. Shortly after that  I had a cough for  two months solid. I could not ever talk without barking and spluttering.  I was detoxing my lungs in a epic way. Detoxing not just the tar and nicotine on my lungs but the whole situation I was emerging from. It was a very spiritual process for me. I was letting go of so much more than cigarettes.  And two years later –  I’m still smoke free.   I gained some weight, which I am still in the process of shedding.  But I’m on the road to perfect health and happiness.  I always had excellent skin, and I now maintain that. My skin has never looked better.  I am able to power walk up hills in no time at all. And my lung capacity has increased measurably.  I am incredibly blessed to be as fit and healthy as I am. I also feel very blessed to have quit when I did and with Max Kirsten. I certainly chose the best for myself.

And I will end my blog off today with this.

If I can stop smoking – Anyone can stop smoking! And that is a fact.

 

 

 

 

 

Time Out

I will be back. I am just taking a little time out to gather my strength and get my mojo back again.

Its been a busy month and I am exhausted.  Studying and starting a new job caught up with me big time.  My head is still a bit foggy and I feel like doing very little. But that is ok.

 

Sometimes its good to just BE

 

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Deep breaths and long walks.

Mindfulness and healthy ways.

Healing on all levels.

 

Your body tells you when it wants to slow down. The key to remaining healthy is listening to yourself. Not fighting it.

 

See you soon.

Dr Wayne Dyer

Sadly one of the greatest people of our times has suddenly passed away.  I honestly considered Dr Wayne Dyer to be a modern day guru.  He was at the foremost of teaching some of the most incredible lessons that we- as his students could ever learn.

 

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I stumbled across his work and his books quite some time ago.  I  happened to be going through a difficult time.  I was living in Amsterdam and a friend of mine worked in a bookshop across the way in one of the shopping streets in the centre of town. The bookshop is Waterstones.  I absolutely loved going in to the shop to get my magazines and books of all kinds.

At the time one of Skye’s (my daughter’s) friend’s mother worked there. It was a largely english speaking shop catering for the expats and for tourists, and of course Dutch too.  The mom was a Reike healer and believed in all the magic in life too. One day she visited with a whole bag of books that she had been collecting over the years from working at waterstonesand she kindly left the bag for me to stifle through and help myself to what I felt was valid to me, and the rest to return for her to pass on to others.  Out of this bag onto my carpet fell a small book called Manifest your destiny As I mentioned earlier, at the time I was going through a particularly rough patch and this book changed everything for me. And I mean everything as I knew it.

My eyes opened wide. Life changed into this magical adventure where I no longer needed to struggle so much, and rather looked at how I could change my outlook from the inside to change the outside. It had the most profound affect on me. One little book of magic. Literally! That is where my relationship began with this amazing man. Dr Wayne Dyer.  I threw myself into reading more and more of his work, and to this day he is one of the most fatherly figures to me in my life. The real father I never had. The love and the passion he has had to share has been immense. I feel a deep sense of loss with him having left. I can only imagine what his family must be feeling. A real loss. I have genuinely felt a sense of grief. He was just so beautiful and so incredibly special. How lucky we are to be blessed with such beings that come and guide us lost souls and show us the way to the light! WayneDyerQuote1

To this very day the man himself guides me in some way. As I myself am studying to be a counsellor just like he once did. His famous book your erroneous zones will become a staple of mine to serve my clients. I know this for sure and intended that before I began my studies! I will carry this mans work with me forever. And I genuinely pay tribute to him. I watched his movie that was put up for one week on his Facebook page, and I cried. The movie called the shift. Just knowing he is no longer here with us, hearing that magical deep voice, that beautiful smile, those big helping hands, the amazing stories.  Dr Wayne Dyer I miss you already. And I salute you and I love you very much. I thank you from the very bottom of my heart for all the good you have done and how you changed my life, or should I say – produced material for me and millions of others to change our lives for the better. We can always do better! I send prayer to your wonderful children and your daughter Skye, your family and all you friends and colleagues.  How sad they must all be. We all know you were not scared at all of dying.

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Thankfully your work will be around much longer than all of us and it will reach and teach many more lost souls.

 

 

Namaste.

Moving Onwards & Upwards

I left London in  November 2013.  My husband is British and I was partially raised by a very British step-father.  I have always loved Britain and London and my english roots and ties. Aways.  When I was growing up, our house was very British and Italian and all the other nationalities I am as well. We had endless episodes of Faulty Towers playing in our house. The humour in our house was very British too.

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But when I left the last time. It was after two of the worst years I can categorically recall – Not since some very early periods of painful things that I had as a young child and teenager.   My beautiful city  London and all things British became horribly tainted by these dark and nasty moments that were being lived by me.   There are posts of how painful some of those things were for me, but I will never be able to explain the exact extent of what I went through ,or should I say what I was dragged through. But it was not pretty. Lets just leave it at that!  And by someone who I absolutely adored and looked up to and cared very much about at the time.

I experienced what a living nightmare was in all its darkness. I learned how selfish and greedy people can be that have portrayed themselves otherwise. I learned a hell of lot. And it seems I needed to learn all of that. I will never entrust my life in anyones hands again. I found myself with no voice to speak up in case I was jobless.  Fear ruled my life and beckoned me further down the road of hell. But I made that choice.  Until eventually I snapped. Broken. Shattered. All the things I had done to work on myself through the years fell apart. All the courage I had built and all the self taught positive input I had dedicated myself to also slipped away. I no longer felt I was part of anything or believed in anything anymore. The magic I once felt was long gone.

 

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I arrived in Australia in December 2013.  Shortly after I left Amsterdam and spent sometime with my greatest gift-  my daughter Skye.  By the time I arrived in a hot and humid Brisbane, I was an empty vessel. My family were  standing at the airport waiving little Aussie flags- they would have no idea that the girl they were collecting from international arrivals was no longer even there anymore. Everything about me was lost. Everything that made me who I was, was in fact just gone. I no longer cared about anything much. I tried hard to put on a very brave face.  I desperately wanted to turn back the clock and erase the time I had in London for those hellish two years. Oh how I would have given anything to transport me back to Amsterdam. Back home to my daughter, my bike, my friends. My life as I had known it. My beautiful home that I had given up  by false promises and lies.

 

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I arrived with hardly any money. I had used all my last resources getting out of hell. Moving all my stuff, tickets, getting to my daughter, getting to Thailand for a week  to try and compose myself. And then getting to Australia and having just enough to survive for a few months till I could find work and get back up again.  The little money I did have represented hell for me, so I actually wanted shot of that too. I could not stop crying. Non stop, all the time. My mother took me to the doctors and got me some of  the help that I needed. I slowly but surely began to heal. I saw a therapist and life started to look up again.

 

 

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I have spent the last year and a half making other women feel good about themselves. And this has been great. And my new role is to do the same but on a more personal level.

I have gone from working for a big make-up brand. To becoming the first beauty stylist for a huge store. Its one for the history books! At the same time I am studying to be a counsellor. I will qualify next year. After two years of hard graft.

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Now I look at things very differently. And I am very open to things changing again in the future. I am not sure that Australia is my forever place. Most probably not. But its been the place where I have come to get my head sorted and be with my family who love me unconditionally. To pick myself up when almost everything fell apart. Its in those dark places that we can find ourselves again. When your heart is so full of darkness it cracks open and the little bit of light shines in and opens it all up again.

 

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You experience all that you experience to learn and to grow. Its part of the deal. Some of those things are unexplainable. But further down the line, you will get it.  I wont’ hesitate to live my life to the fullest. I want to live life! Fight for your survival. Don’t let others get the better of you! People will love it when you fall. There is so much shit out there. But there is a lot of good. Find your strengths and build on them. Learn from past mistakes. I certainly wont ever make the same ones! Mine were hard lessons. Most of us get it hard. But we only get what we can just about cope with. Its important to feel that pain. To really feel the earth tremble and shatter beneath you to be free again. Someone else’s bad behaviour towards you is their karma.

 

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Kelly Howell – Brain Sync

I have been a huge fan of Kelly Howell meditations for many many years. I happened to see that she was launching a new app on iTunes and that she was requesting for like minded people who know a thing or two about meditations and manifesting to review the app and report back to her and her team.

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I sent my message in and was incredibly blessed to be one of the “chosen” to be gifted her new app and her new meditations.  I cannot stress enough just how brilliant this woman is!  I intend to use them in my practise when I qualify as a counsellor at the end of next year. I am certain that the Kelly Howell guided meditations have helped me endlessly over the years. There have even been times when I have listened to her incredibly soothing and even sexy voice when I have gone to sleep at night. Gently and effectively detoxing and reprogramming my sub-conscious mind.

There are a wide variety of meditations and guided meditations to suit everyone. I have always been transported by the guided meditations. I feel blessed enough to be instantly connected to them and to really feel the effects of what they are designed to do. But so can you! It just takes a few moments to tune in and to apply yourself to listen to them on a regular basis to be able to get the full benefits and results! I remain totally loyal to Kelly Howell and her divine meditations. There have been moments when I was listening to these and thinking to myself – how incredibly blessed are we to be able to live in a world now when we can just plug in and someone else does the “hard” work for us!

The cherry on the cake is that the meditations come in short bursts of 10 minutes if you are short of time, and 20 for a bit more and even deeper if you need at 30 minutes.

The more you listen, the more you will achieve. Over time the results will be incredible. There are these amazing people out there doing  these amazing things to be able to help us achieve our very best in life. Take advantage of this and tune in! You wont be at all disappointed. For this I am sure.

 

Thank you Kelly Howell for helping me over the years. I will forever tune in.

Toxic Friendships

This is one of the  last blog’s of a certain experience that I had in my life over a year and a half ago that affected me badly. I needed to blog about it because it happens to most of us- and I feel its better out than in. We can all learn from toxic friendships.

I came across this incredible article – which totally summed it up perfectly – almost as though it has been written just for me, confirming everything of what I experienced over many years. I am sure many of you can relate as well.

We all come across highly toxic people in our lives – they are swimming around everywhere. They can’t wait to latch on and drive their negativity into your head and heart.

This kind of toxic friend comes into your lives pretending to be caring and loving. They hold the mask across their face as though they are friends. They are not friends. They are highly toxic.

 

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What are these traits of highly toxic one sided friends?

 

* They will pretend to adore you – but turn when its no longer convenient for them and even turn very nasty.

* They will interfere with all your plans when you have made arrangements. Turning the attention onto themselves so that they can get what they want out of the situation.

* They will put you down at any given opportunity behind your back to make themselves look good.

* They will never defend you even when you have done good.

* They wont ever offer compliments back to you.

* They will try to make you look stupid to increase how they look to others.

* They are often jealous and insecure.

* They cant wait to come and share bad things that others have said about you. Even if those things are not at all true.

 

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* They think that they know everything and always try to overshadow your views and the views of others.

* They are the biggest braggers and flashers of their lives on social media .

* They must impress and show off at any possible opportunity. They are quite vulgar and for example : must let others know that the sheets are not just sheets, they are Egyptian cotton sheets.

* They even admit to being able to cut people out of their lives in an instant. Admitting their own shallowness and lack of love and empathy.

* They pretend to be generous and kind, but its only for their own gratifications and convenience.

* They lack in self control.

* They never admit to their mistakes and never apologise.

* They over exaggerate the things that they have done for you, yet fail to admit what you have done for them.

 

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There are so many toxic people that we come across and meet in our lives. Often keeping these people around for long amounts of time. Its only when we manage to step back and see who they really are that we are able to filter out the rubbish.

But there are also many good people out there. And life will offer up happiness and joy when you do step back and see clearly.

 

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