Setting Goals

As I mentioned before in one of my  posts, my blogs would be  less frequent due to my studies this year.  But I thought I would give a little update.  I received my last four assignments today. And the feeling is utter elation.

I can not even begin to imagine how far I have come over these two and a half years.  Its amazing what we can achieve if we set our minds to it, and if we set goals.

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I am going home next month. Home is still Amsterdam to me. Well its home away from home.

And the excitement is brimming inside of me to see my daughter Skye, family and friends,  and to ride my bike around the  canals and places that are just so familiar to me and just home…

But before I planned my trip I had work that needed to be done. I had to complete my 14th assignment.

That means work handed in, marked by the teachers and passed. Here in Brisbane the summers are hot and very humid.  They are long and at times unbearable.  I made my decision that before I left to go home, I needed to get most of this done before the summer arrives and energy levels slow down.  I set about writing my goals down, and using highlighter to achieve just that.  As I zipped through hours and hours of study and assignments – each written goal in front of me began to be “ticked” off.  Whilst I am not yet done with the rest of my study. I am near the end. And this has been done with a very energetic job of being a beauty stylist.  I say this because I am not a spring chicken.  Fortunately I am pretty fit and healthy.

 

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I know that in years to come I will look back and wonder how on earth I managed to achieve it. There are days that I am so exhausted I can barely walk another step.  But having goals and achieving them is the most blissful experience ever.  There really is nothing that you can not achieve. If you have a plan, set about writing it all down. And watch those pages turn with more goals.

 

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There is something to be said about setting goals and steadily achieving them.  There is something magical about having it all planned out on paper. Something happens. You set about achieving those goals. Make sure that you regularly look at what you have written to stay on track.  It must be quite visible to you.  There is something magical about ticking things off the list. It drives you to do more and more.  Don’t set unrealistic goals. Keep checking back to see that you are going at a steady pace. If you slip up one week, don’t become despondent and pack it all in. Just get back on track,  and if you need to – adjust the goal post slightly.

I am perfectly comfortable with admitting that I am looking very forward to a whole weekend without studies this holiday. And because I reached my goal, I will be doing what I love – guilt free.

I am looking forward to exploring some of Australia next year. Places around Brisbane,  like Noosa and many other magical places.  Life will be taking on a whole new meaning after I have reached this years goals.

There will be more goals to come to really propel me on the road to success. But for now,  this one has been reached.  And I cant wait to go back home.

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Dr Wayne Dyer

Sadly one of the greatest people of our times has suddenly passed away.  I honestly considered Dr Wayne Dyer to be a modern day guru.  He was at the foremost of teaching some of the most incredible lessons that we- as his students could ever learn.

 

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I stumbled across his work and his books quite some time ago.  I  happened to be going through a difficult time.  I was living in Amsterdam and a friend of mine worked in a bookshop across the way in one of the shopping streets in the centre of town. The bookshop is Waterstones.  I absolutely loved going in to the shop to get my magazines and books of all kinds.

At the time one of Skye’s (my daughter’s) friend’s mother worked there. It was a largely english speaking shop catering for the expats and for tourists, and of course Dutch too.  The mom was a Reike healer and believed in all the magic in life too. One day she visited with a whole bag of books that she had been collecting over the years from working at waterstonesand she kindly left the bag for me to stifle through and help myself to what I felt was valid to me, and the rest to return for her to pass on to others.  Out of this bag onto my carpet fell a small book called Manifest your destiny As I mentioned earlier, at the time I was going through a particularly rough patch and this book changed everything for me. And I mean everything as I knew it.

My eyes opened wide. Life changed into this magical adventure where I no longer needed to struggle so much, and rather looked at how I could change my outlook from the inside to change the outside. It had the most profound affect on me. One little book of magic. Literally! That is where my relationship began with this amazing man. Dr Wayne Dyer.  I threw myself into reading more and more of his work, and to this day he is one of the most fatherly figures to me in my life. The real father I never had. The love and the passion he has had to share has been immense. I feel a deep sense of loss with him having left. I can only imagine what his family must be feeling. A real loss. I have genuinely felt a sense of grief. He was just so beautiful and so incredibly special. How lucky we are to be blessed with such beings that come and guide us lost souls and show us the way to the light! WayneDyerQuote1

To this very day the man himself guides me in some way. As I myself am studying to be a counsellor just like he once did. His famous book your erroneous zones will become a staple of mine to serve my clients. I know this for sure and intended that before I began my studies! I will carry this mans work with me forever. And I genuinely pay tribute to him. I watched his movie that was put up for one week on his Facebook page, and I cried. The movie called the shift. Just knowing he is no longer here with us, hearing that magical deep voice, that beautiful smile, those big helping hands, the amazing stories.  Dr Wayne Dyer I miss you already. And I salute you and I love you very much. I thank you from the very bottom of my heart for all the good you have done and how you changed my life, or should I say – produced material for me and millions of others to change our lives for the better. We can always do better! I send prayer to your wonderful children and your daughter Skye, your family and all you friends and colleagues.  How sad they must all be. We all know you were not scared at all of dying.

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Thankfully your work will be around much longer than all of us and it will reach and teach many more lost souls.

 

 

Namaste.

Forgiveness

I have not written for a while, and at times I feel so guilty for not doing so.  I am my worst critic, and I know that its important to keep writing for my blog to be in any way meaningful or helpful in any of the areas that I cover. I have even considered removing my blog so as not to make an ass of myself. But my gut feeling urges me to keep going.  What does any of this have to do with forgiveness you might ask?

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When we feel stuck and tied up in the past we struggle to gain control of anything in the present.  It is very hard to put one step in front of the other when you are still struggling with things that are not completed or dealt with in your heart.

Even something as drastic as moving across the world wont solve the pain you might be carrying with you. No matter how hard you try to get a grip, you are still in that dark place. So how do you deal with past issues and set yourself free from the past pains you may have endured? How do you finally forgive and set yourself free?

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The most important thing is to forgive yourself. This is vital. Forgive yourself for the decisions you made. As I have said before – none of us are victims. We are where we are  through choices that we have made. This does not mean that the situation we found ourselves in was gravely unfair and unjust, it just means we made a mistake and we must find a way to move on.  But what if we had a situation where another person behaved so badly towards us that we feel it is unforgivable? How do we forgive!

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Well my take  on forgiveness is quite different to what many are preaching and conveying. I believe that you can not just forgive. That you have to be patient for this feeling to come at the right time.

I found myself in the worst situation a couple of years ago. I trusted a friend with my life and put my life in her hands and she abused that from the very first day I arrived. It was a huge decision to trust her to do the right thing to begin with, and after much assurance and persuasion, I made the bold decision to uproot my life and jump into the unknown. I took a massive leap of faith. That leap of faith cost me so many things. Including my health. My heart nearly packed up on me for good! It was the scariest and most damaging decision that I have ever made. But…..I made that choice. No one is to blame for that! So the forgiveness begins with me.

So what about forgiving the other person?

That does not even matter anymore. Just forgive yourself. Be gentle and kind to yourself and get help. I help people, and I still also need help. We are  all beings of the universe and we are all here together to make it work. Admitting you need to get help is good, it opens doors to recovery and support.

If you are not ready to forgive others for what they have done, then don’t worry about it! Too many books are telling you that you must forgive others to move on. Rubbish. Forgive you first. Set yourself free from the guilt of not forgiving others that have caused you pain.

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Have patience for yourself and for the process. You can not force forgiveness. It cant just happen.

Be gentle and allow things to flow naturally. In time all the wounds of pain will heal. And those who deserve you will be around to enjoy the love you have to share.

 

Yoga girl

I recently decided to take up some yoga after following a young woman on Instagram that my sister-in-law recommended to me. Her name is Rachel Brathen aka Yoga_girl  & her story gripped me instantly. I saw similarities and her husband is partly Dutch I believe. When I see them on Instagram in Amsterdam , it makes me feel close to home in many ways.  She speaks from the heart and her posts are everything from joy to happiness to travel and even heartbreaking pain.  What this woman has achieved through social media and a love of what she does is just incredible and a real sign of the times of the world that we now live in.  A real inspiration to an incredible amount of people, me included!

 

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So after months of reading Yoga_girl’s posts and wishing that I was in all  the places that she has taught around the world. The best thing happened. She launched some yoga videos to do at home!  I did not hesitate to purchase mine. Who better to learn from than someone who teaches around the world, and has more than a million followers on Instagram right? I began my first one a few days ago, and managed to complete my second one today. They are fabulous! And I know that I will see results if I stick to doing them.  One day I will be able to attend one of her classes in person.  I stretched places on my body today that I honestly never knew I had! And that is saying a lot for someone who does Pilates regularly.  The very first day that I did her first video, I must have opened up a few chakras that have been shut due to a lot of past pain, because I sobbed after. It was a real release.

 

Yoga_girl has a variety of yoga that she teaches including SUP yoga .  Rachel and her husband are the one and only certified legal  SUP business.  This is a stand up paddle board method on a Bogayoga board, that I believe her and her husband Dennis, also an instructor –  have devised and mastered.  This is done in her hometown of Costa Rica and in other fabulous beach locations around the globe.

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I urge all of you to follow Yoga_girl on Instagram and to get connected on her website for up and coming events in your city around the globe. http://rachelbrathen.com/blog/

I can absolutely recommend her yoga videos to use in the comfort of your home.  They are incredibly peaceful, challenging and powerful.

I will keep you updated with my progress.

 

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